My son has Autism and ADHD

My 6-year-old son who has autism and ADHD had an amazing, perfect day at school and even came home with award stars until the bus where a kid sat in his seat and devon put his hands around his neck .... I feel sick to my stomach ... is my son a monster? Choking so bad ....the bus drive threatened to kick him off next time it happens and siad he knows better and was so mean to me about it ... I feel awful ... I just want to cry

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A: That bus drivers needs to understand to keep them separated he shouldn't of handled it the way he did!! My son rides a van to school instead of a regular bus maybe look to see if they have can transport so it might be easier on your son A: Just tell Devon it's not OK. He will then know not to do it again. Keep reminding him though. A:Aw lovely I sympathize was there any particular triggers? Maybe they should be separated or alternative transport arranged A:I’d call an emergency IEP meeting and ask for him to have aid with him on the bus. Immediately A:Your son isn't a monster, he just probably became overstimulated and due to not being able to process what was happening. went for someone. (experience from someone who has autism and has dealt with autism) A:Your kid isn’t a monster! He just doesn’t understand change! But I would also explain that he can’t put his hands on other people and that it wasn’t ok to do that! My son is 5 and Autistic and he went through a stage where he would hit his older brother when he didn’t get his way. My older son is 11 and knew not to hit him but to explain to him not to do that and eventually he quit doing it

A:The behavior can be explained, but that doesn’t mean that it is okay. It is of course never okay to choke someone in a situation right that.

The behavior can be explained and is somewhat common among autistics. It can be explained (in short) by weak theory of mind (which can lead to lack of empathy in certain situations), getting easily stressed/overstimulated and not being able to regulate your emotions correctly.

However these are all the things that can, and in this case should be worked on.

I don’t know if he has therapy, if he doesn’t, it is necessary here. Keep working with him and his therapists on these issues and it should get better with age.

Until then, it will be hard. Try doing everything to prevent such situations until he is able to handle them better.

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A:Your son is definitely not a monster he is particular about a routine and the bus driver should have just let your son sit in his seat and not put another kid there. My son gets upset and goes into meltdown mode if something is different about his schedule or routine

A:Your son isn’t a monster … he has autism. Don’t be so hard on yourself momma … give yourself and you son some grace

A:Your kid is not a monster, explain to him it is not ok to his hands on someone else. Also like other people said call an emergency iep meeting and have him work with a therapist.

A:He isn’t a monster. He is 6, but that doesn’t mean he knows better. He may, idk the child just saying there are plenty of things other people or even us as parents sometimes assume are child would know. Either way it needs to be addressed he can’t hurt other kids. But I would definitely be calling the school or setting up a meeting for an aid to ride with him and have someone talk to the bus driver.

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A:Hi, do not cry, show strength and understanding and your son will pick up on this. Explain to your son that sometimes someone may need his seat as they are struggling themselves with the day they have had. There are social stories on youtube that can help such as: Teaching children to share and Life lessons sharing and respecting others. There are many others. Take care